Have you ever felt like you’re your own worst enemy? Like no matter how hard you try, you keep tripping over the same hurdles? That’s something I’ve grappled with, and it’s why this poem struck a chord with me.
You see, it’s all about taking responsibility for our happiness and growth. It sounds simple, right? But it’s one of the toughest things to do. We tend to blame external factors for our problems — our upbringing, our circumstances, other people — but the truth is, the biggest hurdles we face are often the ones we create for ourselves.
Take that line, “No one hurts me like I do.” It’s a raw realisation that hit me hard. How many times have I stayed in situations that hurt me? How many times have I settled for less than I deserve? And why do I do it? Fear, comfort, maybe a misguided sense of loyalty. It’s a tough pill to swallow, but it’s also a wake-up call to start making better choices for myself.
And then there’s the desire for change. We all want to grow, to become better versions of ourselves, but it’s scary, isn’t it? Stepping out of our comfort zones, and facing uncertainty — it’s enough to make anyone hesitate. But as Ichiro Kishimi says, our past doesn’t dictate our future. We have the power to rewrite our stories, to embrace change and all the possibilities it brings.
But perhaps the most powerful line for me is, “when I don’t like myself but do everything to hate me.” Self-loathing is a heavy burden to bear, and yet, it’s something so many of us struggle with. We’re our own worst critics, constantly tearing ourselves down instead of lifting ourselves up. But what if we tried a different approach? What if we showed ourselves the same kindness and compassion we show to others? It’s a radical idea, but one worth exploring.
This journey of self-awareness and growth isn’t easy, but it’s worth it. It’s about taking ownership of our lives, our choices, and our happiness. It’s about recognising that we have the power to shape our destinies, no matter what obstacles we may face.
So, as I reflect on these words and the wisdom of Alderian Psychology as presented in “The Courage to Be Disliked,” I’m reminded of the importance of embracing responsibility. It’s not about blaming ourselves for our shortcomings, but rather, acknowledging our capacity for change and growth. It’s about letting go of the past and embracing the endless possibilities of the future — acknowledging our our life-lies and separating life tasks.
So here’s to taking the first steps on this journey within, to rewriting our stories with courage, compassion, and unwavering faith in ourselves. After all, the power to transform our lives lies within each one of us.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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