Like I always say, any time I have the opportunity to talk to or console someone (a male or female) who just had a heartbreak. I always say…
It’s your fault!
Why?
You chose to ignore all the red flags and made yourself open and susceptible.
The truth is before all heartbreaks, there would be at least a few subtle silent signs that heartbreak is coming.
It takes someone who’s fully alive and awake, that’s not “blindly” in love to spot these subtle signs of impending heartbreaks.
The reality is most of the people we felt were in love with us started finding replacements for us long before the jugular of the heartbreak was released to our world.
In order to help men to spot these signals from from afar, here are few ways of knowing if your “lover” I’d already looking for another man:
1. She’s Emotionally Unavailable
Usually, at least more often than not, you will notice a change in how a woman used to relate with you emotionally, when she’s beginning to check out on you.
She used to care if you have eaten, how your day is going, how you’re feeling and more.
All of a sudden she’s too busy to check on you. Conversations are drab and forced, she’s emotionally distant.
She longer shares her thoughts or even tells you interesting things about her day anymore. Or your thoughts on matters concerning her.
All these are because she has probably had another bidden emotion plug or a replacement for you.
2. She Seems Happier When You’re Not Around
Nothing feels better than having the person you love around you. When a woman feels more at ease without you or seemingly prefers being alone than being with you. It’s a red flag.
When she seems disinterested, easily distracted, moody, and bored when with you. But when she’s with friends (regardless of gender) she’s more lively, loud, full of excitement and energy.
It’s a sign her mind is already with someone else.
3. She’s Picking Fights Over Nothing
When a woman’s mind is with another man, she will start unnecessary arguments or fights, she will start criticizing you unduly.
She will start turning small disagreement into big battle, she will start reading unnecessary meanings into things you never meant.
She will start feeling irritated by things she used to see as normal before. All because her heart has shifted away from you.
Other signs you may have to watch out for, are:
- She gives more priority to her appearance more than you.
- She doesn’t any longer feature you in her future plans, and she talks less about a future with you.
- She spends more than usual time to reply your messages or answer your calls.
- She’s cold on calls or chats, and feels disinterested or distant.
- She’s overly protective of her phone and doesn’t reveal the identity of people that are calling her in your presence, even when you ask.
- She’s seemingly “busy” than usual and visibly avoiding you.
- There’s drastic reduction in time she spends with you on call, chat or dates.
What to do?
If you notice any of this signs. You may want to try have a honest dialogue with her if all is well with her or if you haven’t offended her or she still see a future with you.
Warning
If she is emotionally check out, don’t try to chase her in order to bring her back, no amount of efforts or chase can restore her.
If her response doesn’t sound convincing or honest, don’t panic or feel dismayed. The best thing to do is to walk away, and keep your dignity intact.
Face the music once, the worst thing a man can do is to ignore red flag signs. If she has already left you, move on. The right person is waiting for you.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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